I was wrong’: Reality TV star Vuyokazi Nciweni’s fiancé apologises amid shocking lobola claims

Xolani Sabelo, the fiancé of reality TV star Vuyokazi Nciweni, has issued a public apology after his controversial claims about their relationship and marriage surfaced online. The chef expressed regret for the false accusations he made, admitting that his comments about being coerced into marriage and paying lobola (the traditional bride price in South Africa) were wrong.

In a heartfelt video, Sabelo acknowledged his mistake, stating, “I admit I was wrong. I messed up. Every relationship has its challenges, and whatever I said about Vuyo is not true.” He clarified that his allegations, which suggested Nciweni had pressured him into marriage, were made in a moment of emotional distress while he was speaking to the mother of his child. Sabelo explained that the emotional strain he was under at the time clouded his judgment, and he now deeply regrets the harm his words have caused.

“I am sorry to Vuyo and her family. I was stupid, and I spoke to her,” Sabelo continued, addressing the fallout from his comments. “The person who exposed me hoped we would be fine, but it didn’t happen that way.” The chef further took responsibility for his actions, stating that he did not blame his child’s mother but rather himself for the situation.

Sabelo’s apology extended not only to Nciweni and her family but also to his own family and to Nciweni’s supporters, acknowledging that his statements had damaged relationships and caused emotional pain. “I don’t blame my baby mama but myself,” he said, expressing that he had learned from the incident and was prepared to face public judgment for his actions.

The scandal stemmed from voice notes that surfaced on social media, in which Sabelo made claims that Nciweni had forced him into their engagement and pressured him into paying lobola. The allegations took many by surprise, as the couple’s engagement had been widely celebrated by fans just weeks earlier, following Nciweni’s highly publicized breakup with her former partner, Mpumelelo Mseleku.

In response to the shocking claims, Nciweni addressed the situation in an Instagram post, expressing her deep hurt and disappointment. “I am reaching out to you with a heavy heart, as recent events have deeply affected me,” she wrote. The reality TV star revealed that she was “devastated” upon learning of the voice notes and the accusations they contained, admitting that she had struggled to process the emotional toll of the situation. “These accusations have brought to light a side of him that I was previously unaware of or perhaps chose not to see,” she added, highlighting the emotional distress caused by the scandal.

Nciweni’s engagement to Sabelo came after the end of her relationship with Mpumelelo Mseleku, an aspiring polygamist and the father of her two children. Their relationship ended on the reality show Izingane zeS’thembu, where Nciweni publicly revealed that she had broken up with Mpumelelo after he sought to marry another woman as his first wife, ahead of Nciweni. This breakup had already captured the public’s attention, and Nciweni’s new engagement to Sabelo was initially seen as a fresh start and a step toward happiness.

In August, Nciweni celebrated her engagement with photos from the ceremony, where she wore a vibrant pink dress and a white towel embroidered with “Becoming Mrs. S.” Her post, which she later deleted amid the scandal, was captioned “A promise kept,” accompanied by heart and ring emojis. The post symbolized the beginning of what many hoped would be a joyful new chapter in Nciweni’s life, following the end of her previous relationship.

However, just weeks after their engagement, voice notes from Sabelo expressing regret over the relationship began circulating on social media, leaving fans shocked and confused. In his public apology, Sabelo explained that he had accepted responsibility for his actions and was ready to face the consequences, regardless of what the public might say. “You can say whatever you want to say, but I’ve accepted responsibility,” he concluded in the video.

The controversy has left both Nciweni and Sabelo reeling, as they attempt to navigate the fallout from the allegations. The situation has sparked widespread discussion about relationships, public figures, and the emotional toll that such private matters can take when made public. For now, the future of their relationship remains uncertain, but both have expressed a desire to move forward, with Sabelo’s apology signaling an effort to repair the damage caused by his actions.

The scandal has also sparked broader conversations about the pressures faced by celebrities in the public eye, particularly when it comes to personal and private matters being exposed on social media. As fans continue to weigh in on the situation, it remains to be seen how Nciweni and Sabelo will navigate the aftermath and whether their relationship can withstand the public scrutiny.